In sound premarital counseling, the minister of God is to both spiritually and psychologically detect effects of negative upbringing, deal with those effects, and add what is discovered to be missing in their preparation for a glorious home ahead.
It is very difficult for ununited couple to properly bring up a child since their minds would have developed to oppose each other's opinion. The duo will end up having their own choiced child, and this would affect the upbringing treatment they give to their children.
When one of the partners feels he or she cannot cope with the other person, there could be a transfer of emotions.
For instance, if the father considers the wife impassioned or unloving and fails to correct the situation, he might begin to develop emotional connection towards the child of his choice thereby putting the couple the more apart.